Can you coach yourself?

//Can you coach yourself?

Can you coach yourself?

untitled-design-10Have you got a tough decision to make? Have you ever had that heavy feeling in the pit of your stomach when an exciting prospect presents itself yet it feels wrong?


When you’re offered an opportunity that wasn’t on your radar; it is something new that looks good and you are flattered at being asked.

You think – “If I don’t do it will it look like I hadn’t tried”; “I hadn’t thought about it before, so should I deviate?” “If I do… is it the right decision?”

So how do you make the right decision?

Perhaps just talk it through; I mean just talk…. with someone who will just listen; no interruptions, no advice or judgement, just listen. You are very lucky if you have someone like that. Often friends or colleagues are full of; when that happened to them, or “what I would do is!”

Though just talking does help you listen to yourself, you are starting to clarify and be objective by saying what you think out loud. I had a decision dilemma and after talking I came to a clear conclusion, that though this sounded great, this was not on my plan, and it’s not on my plan for a reason.

Some while ago I set on my new venture. This required a great deal of soul searching and from that I defined what is important to me; my values and my goals for business and family.

You could of course do the fore’s and against or perhaps a decision grid, force field analysis, etc. All great for a logical approach and when data is present.

Here are my 3 suggestions to help you to decide?

1. Check the opportunity against your goals and more importantly your values. They are your guiding compass and both allow you to assess head and heart. I heard loud and clear my inner self, saying that it is an opportunity, though it’s not what you are seeking and it is a big deviation, not an enhancement. Keep on your track it is the right one….
2. Talk to someone who can help you in a non-judgemental way, perhaps engage with a coach who will have the skills to enable you to consider all perspectives and will stretch your thinking and support your motives.
3. Complete some self-coaching. Try this, but you need to write it down.

 Ask yourself- If I got this outcome, (took the opportunity) what will it do for me? Write the answer down ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
 Then repeat, if I got this outcome (your answer) what will that do for me? Write it down…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
 Then repeat again, if I got this outcome, what will that do for me?…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
 Repeat until you either loop back to something you discovered before or you get a ‘aha’ moment……………………………………………………………………………………………………………

Now, whatever path you then decide to take; what I find is that when you really dig deep and explore your options… whatever the decision, whatever the outcome, you always know that you did it for the right reason and you really thought about it!

Good luck
Jo
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2017-07-24T21:44:47+00:00

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