Too much to think about, too much going on? Not sure what is happening next?
You feel overwhelmed but know you need to keep going and be more resilient, but you have no energy left, you keep on pushing through, right that will help! Is it difficult to get out of bed or off the sofa, you are procrastinating and resent the time you must give to tasks?
Maybe it is time to recognise that life is not an endurance test and that it is time to rest and build your resilience levels back up. It is time to find another way to feel more relaxed and in control.
One day, with time to spare at Birmingham train station I wandered into the newsagents and meandered around the book section. (Always dangerous!) I was drawn to a book on ‘Resilience’ from the Harvard Business review series and one chapter really caught my eye; “Resilience is about how you recharge, not endure” by S Achor and M Gielan. Of course, I bought the book, well two as they were on offer!
Resilience and wellbeing are topics I get very passionate about and the title really jumped out at me; “wow of course it is, but is this how we see it?” Is this how you see resilience or are you ‘powering through?’ I believe there is a danger in how we perceive resilience: that we should have more of it, develop it, obtain it, and measure it, like a competency. That we fail if we don’t have it, so we keep going, enduring.
But our bodies do run out of energy, they get ill, we have difficult times, and they need to rest and restore.
So how can you build your resilience and recharge?
Here are my top 3 tips to building your resilience and find your bounce!
- Take breaks: Internal and External breaks, at work and away from work. Researchers Zijlstra, Cropley and Rydstedt write in their 2014 paper: “Internal recovery refers to the shorter periods of relaxation that take place within the framework of the workday or work setting, by changing tasks, taking breaks.” So, restore in short bursts, at lunch time and throughout the day. Have a walk, eat away from the desk, alter the tasks. “External recovery refers to actions that take place outside of work – days off, holidays, weekends.” It is also important to switch off the mental stimulus and relax your body and mind. Are you really doing both?
- Clear out any emotions you are hoarding. A good way to do this on your own is by journaling; write down whatever comes to you and then explore whatever gets written and then think about what you need now. Or note the emotion you are feeling and then choose to release it with your breath. Then expand your breath into your whole body.
- Build a daily practice that allows you to restore regularly, make it a habit, schedule it. Perhaps you could have a ‘power hour’ or even ten minutes, to exercise, meditate or journal. Whatever you can do, but do it consistently, you owe it to yourself.
So, take the time to recharge and start to feel that energy come back, the mind is now clear, and you are feeling in flow. You are getting more done and you feel great. Tasks are coming off the list and you’re achieving more and nicer to be around. You enjoy the time you set aside for yourself and you regularly feel rewarded and grateful.
I hope that has given you some ideas and at the very least give yourself some time to restore!
If it feels like you need some help to make changes and it’s too much to do on your own contact me for a free telephone consultation to find out more about how I can help you.